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Keeping Parenting Simple

End goals in mind.

Alison Acheson
3 min readSep 4, 2021
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Recently someone shared with me the “yes space” idea… which is, essentially, putting a young child into a completely safe space, a space in which “no” doesn’t need to happen.

The person sharing this came up with a lengthy explanation, but really, just from the phrase, I knew exactly what she was talking about.

It’s not a bad idea. But it’s just another idea.

Too many ideas

Ideas are everywhere — we are drowning in them. We spend to much time reading and thinking about them (as in, here we are… so I’ll keep this short!)

I have three sons and have worked full-time through all the heavy parenting years. There was a lot of juggling and multi-tasking. I read a lot and talked a lot… but early on I thought about the End Goal, and decided that my end goal was to have children who grew up to be productive, kind, and content.

After that, decisions became easier. If something was happening that did not fit into that framework, I questioned it. Often, with this in the back of my mind, I knew the direction to go.

Productive

Productive is not rich. Productive might not earn a lot of money. But productive means that one is active in their life — one is doing.

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Alison Acheson
Alison Acheson

Written by Alison Acheson

Dance Me to the End: Ten Months and Ten Days With ALS--caregiving memoir. My pubs here: LIVES WELL LIVED, UNSCHOOL FOR WRITERS, and editor for WRITE & REVIEW.

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